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Do you talk to parent about soiling accidents ?

It all depends what is condition your loved one has. 
I remember one "son" confronting me on hording his mother's diapers because she does not remember having any accidents. Guess what? He did it on front his mother and I still remember how painful it was for her to hear me saying that, indeed, she has accidents every day when in my care (respite/day care). Maybe because she is confused and not sure where the bathroom is, maybe because she does not feel it coming and, by the time she makes it to the bathroom, it's too late and we need to change all her clothes, not only diaper.... I refused to continue discussion on front of her. He called me very next morning and said: "I apologize! My mother just pooped her pants and it was awful! I do not know how you can handle it every day...." and I did hear his mother crying next to him..... What was really awful that he was very open about discussing it on front of her and I knew how heart broken she was to hear that.
So, be considerate! Do not humiliate your patents! Just clean it up or learn how to avoid mess by simply preventing it: trip to the bathroom right after meal, reminding them to use bathroom more often before it's too late, "offering" (insisting!) on helping them to clean up butt, etc.... That's what I do every day. 
Besides, keeping that but clean and applying lotions all the time you might prevent "bad sores" which happen not only in the bed. Easier to prevent than heal!

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